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You think something will happen (positive or negative) and then it happens: how many times has it happened to you? We explain what's behind the self-fulfilling prophecies
The meeting with the boss will go very badly, you are sure. Then comes that day and really bad.
Or again you feel that you will fail the exam you will have to take. Also this time exactly what you thought happens.
If you think something will happen, there will be a very high probability that it will really happen
This phenomenon often comes mistaken for unlikely magical gifts or particular prescient powers when instead it has only one name: Pygmalion effect.
The Pygmalion effect is also known as the Rosenthal effect, named after the German psychologist who first spoke of this phenomenon.
Essentially, it tells us that people will be influenced by their own thoughts enough to act, consciously or not, up to self fulfill them.
We show you what are the mechanisms so if you think of one thing, it will probably come true.
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You can see it in everyday life, at work or at home. Each individual is treated as he expects others to treat him.
In other words, do you feel you are worth a lot at work? You will be treated by the boss with the value you attribute to yourself.
Or again, do you think you have a particular gift? Even if this is not true, your belief will make you focus on that aspect until it is actually developed to the best.
The suggestion, in short, it will be your best ally to make your thoughts come true.
So be careful to have only positive ones.
Confidence is a fundamental aspect of the Pygmalion effect and thanks to it infinite opportunities can be generated.
Your thoughts will materialize when you have confidence in your abilities or when someone will bet on you.
You will indeed be influenced by the beliefs generated by others or, even better, from yourself and you will show hidden and potentially useful aspects.
Expectations can affect our relationships and the performance we can get from others.
Rosenthal has shown that if teachers believe that some children have above average IQs (while they are on par with other students), they will treat them more carefully and they will have more confidence in their abilities.
After some time it has been shown that those children will actually have better results.
This happens because, thanks to high expectations in their abilities and the consequent confidence, they have been put in a position to give their best of their abilities.
The moral? Believe in the capabilities of others and you will get exactly what you want.
The (false) belief
We are what we believe we are
The Pygmalion effect also explains why they exist people who appear particularly unfortunate in relationships.
Colleagues are fake, friends take advantage of it, family is untrustworthy, partner thinks only for himself, etc.
The reality, however, is that people are treated as they expect to be.
This means that, each of us, puts on a series of strategies to be treated that way.
How to use this to our advantage? For example, learning to know and accept each other.