Table of contents:
- 1. Be unfocused
- 2. Gossip and complain
- 3. Forget courtesy to those around you
- 4. Show yourself weak
- 5. Presenting yourself in a bad mood
- 6. Being narcissistic
- 7. Seem apathetic
Does everything seem to be going wrong? Here are some of the most common missteps that don't allow you to find a boyfriend or a job
There are times in life when everything seems to go wrong. Interviews after which you are never contacted, go out with guys who disappear into thin air …
The fault could be of an unfortunate astral conjunction, but perhaps - and it would be better because in this second case the situation is solvable - you are simply wrong approach.
These mistakes are enemies of work and love. The good news is that they can be easily avoided.
We list them and describe them one by one: if you recognize us, change your approach and you will see that the results will not be long in coming.
1. Be unfocused
If on a first date or an interview your mind begins to wander freely, so much so that at a certain point, seeing your interlocutor's lips move, you don't have the slightest idea what words they uttered, whoever is in front of you will not have much effort to notice and think that you are not particularly interested.
To make the meeting go smoothly, try to clear your mind and focus on the here and now. Your willingness to listen will certainly be positively perceived.
2. Gossip and complain
Your ex broke up with you in the worst way. The company where you worked for years fired you on the spot. Anyone in your place would harbor resentment, but the guy you just met or the recruiter who decides whether or not to hire you this information doesn't care at all.
Not only that, an attitude of this type could fuel the suspicion that you are used to denigrate anyone around you. Forget your past disappointments and be positive.
3. Forget courtesy to those around you
You are so focused on your mission to please those in front of you that you overlook everyone else. This attitude will certainly not go unnoticed and could weigh much more than you think.
If you describe yourself in words as sociable people, you are used to working in a group, but then forget even to say hello to those around you, you will not be very credible.
Whether they are friends of the guy you just dated or potential future colleagues, treat them with kindness and respect, your interlocutor will appreciate it too.
4. Show yourself weak
Maybe you damn need that job. Maybe you can't wait to get together with him. When this becomes evident from your behavior, however, it could be a problem for you.
In fact, if the person you are with realizes that you would do anything to get that position / another date, they may perceive you as less desirable.
Strive to give the impression of being strong and independent, others will have to think they want you at all costs.
5. Presenting yourself in a bad mood
Even if it is raining, you missed the bus and your hair has taken on the appearance of a champignon, you have no excuse to make those around you with your bad moon.
Beyond the personal qualities and abilities that distinguish you, your success will necessarily be conditioned by the way you place yourself.
Nobody likes to have negative people by their side, whether it's work or private life, so leave your black cloud and make sure that those in front of you want to see you again.
6. Being narcissistic
Cultivating your self-esteem and being aware of your abilities is a prerequisite for success, but self-worship must never overshadow others.
In addition to talking about your experiences and passions, leave room for the person you are with and try to guess their state of mind.
If you are able to establish an empathic relationship, it will be easier for your interlocutor to remember you and associate your presence with something pleasant.
7. Seem apathetic
Maybe it's just a matter of shyness, the fact remains that at your appointment / interview you said little more than a handful of words and demonstrated the energy of a hibernating hedgehog.
It is not difficult to understand why this attitude is anything but rewarding. Enthusiasm and passion are fundamental requirements both for starting a relationship and for being an attractive candidate.
If you're really interested in the person you're dating or the job you've applied for, don't be afraid to prove it, your involvement will certainly be appreciated.